P. Gunasundari

April 2007

Reason

• Men
• Women
• Safety/Security

Men

Why we have taken men as a main reason for the failure of development of women in India?

First of all they won’t allow us to think. They think that we should not have separate opinion, separate feelings, we always have to say “yes” for all their decisions.

In some family if they allow us to speak or to make a decision also. If the father of that family says “No”. The girl’s decision becomes big “Zero”, so here father is the “Hero”.

Instead of making a girl to speak out and to make her thoughts broken. They can straight away tell their decision should be a final one.

I am not telling that all men have dominating character or they didn’t have broad mind to think. There may be some reasons behind them for the opposition. So, first we have to break those small reasons.

Women

Women are the main enemies for the development of another woman. Let us see one small example.

If two girls are going for shopping, they enter the hair clip shop. One girl saw one very beautiful clip, she wanted it to see closer and ask the shop keeper to take out the clip. She called the other girl to ask about her opinion about the clip which she has chosen. If suppose the other girls also liked the same clip which has no stock in that same design and colour, what would be the opinion of that girl???

She definitely advised her friend not to choose that clip, because……she will give some unwanted reasons for that. The next day she will buy the same clip if it is there. This is the simple example.

If we are going for textiles also girls will see what is other girl has chosen. So, this is the mentality of girls. She is the great enemy for the development of other girl.

Security

Girls didn’t have security. Mahakavi Bharathiyar says:

“A girls is safe when she is going out with full of jewels in the midnight” then only we can say we got full independence. So, from that we can conclude that we are not independent.

In basic, we need independence to think, to speak, to do everything.

If Kalpana Chawla’s father, P T Usha, etc., have not allowed their daughters or wives to speak, to think or to do something independently, we would have miss all the gems. So allow us to speak.