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Love, Sex and Marriage Angelo This is a forbidden topic in the Indian psyche. Indians
never openly discuss this topic anywhere. The Indian psyche, on the other hand,
is willing to accept this topic in the celluloid. But, today’s Indian media,
especially, magazines are willing to help the Indian adolescents with
articles, interviews and question and answers in this topic. This article is
dedicated to the Indian adolescents. A teenager’s usual ethical question is whether it is right
to make love with the opposite sex. The answer is a plain no to a teenager.
Please don’t get angry with the answer. I will substantiate my reasons for
the answer. Falling in love is not wrong, but, falling in love during
teenage is wrong. In the age between thirteen and nineteen, the growth of an
individual is phenomenally fast. Yet, the growth is not complete at the age
of nineteen. This is a period when an individual believes that he or she can
be independent of his/her elders. If given a chance, he or she will be
absolutely inadequate and be completely dependent on almost every area. The
reason is the growth process is not yet over. Generally, a person will have a
lot of questions but will not have the right answers. That’s why, during the
adolescent falling in love is wrong. A person’s belief and feeling at this
age will not go together with the demands of the realities of life. For
example, in every area of life, an adolescent will love to behave as an
adult, because he/she believes to be an adult. But, unfortunately, he or she
hasn’t become an adult. A person will believe that he/she knows everything
but in reality, he/she will be helplessly groping like a blind. Can a blind
lead another blind? That’s why a teenager should not fall in love. His/her
decisions need not necessarily be right. After ten years, when a person looks
back at his adolescent period he/she will feel stupid and his/her notions
embarrassing. The bottom line is the growth of a person is not adequate to
decide about marriage. The western social systems loom large before our eyes
as a proof for this theory. A person can choose the partner after 22 or 23
but not before that. The next important question for an adolescent is whether
pre-marital sex is wrong. The pre-marital sex is absolutely wrong. Any sex
outside marriage is wrong and is absolutely wrong. Sex can be only within the
structure of marriage and anything outside cannot be right. Every man expects
his bride to be spotless. Thus every woman is not wrong when she expects her
groom to be spotless. It is only fair for both the man and woman to be clean.
And it is prudent in the age of AIDS to be clean before and after marriage.
Mani Ratnams Priya O Priya tells the modern audience clearly that sex outside
is wrong and it cannot be justified under normal circumstances. The usual question for an adolescent is whether love
marriage or arranged marriage is preferred. A marriage is an institution,
especially under the Indian environment. It has its codes. It has its
demands. It has its responsibilities. Any marriage can be wonderful whether
it is arranged or love marriage, when husband and wife is responsible towards
each other and responsible towards their children. Any marriage becomes a
hell when one becomes irresponsible and selfish. Man and woman are
complementary to each other. Nobody is superior or inferior to each other. In
reality, man and woman can only be complementary to each other.
Understanding, sensitivity, care and love are the watchwords of any
successful marriage. Understanding and sensitivity cannot be taken out of any
marriage. Love, sex and marriage can be a beautiful experience when
these three occur at the right time, in the right order by the right persons. |
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